7 Overlooked Thanksgiving Rituals,
According to Sociologists
The first major sociological study of Thanksgiving appeared in the Journal of Consumer Research in 1991. The authors conducted in-depth interviews with people about their experiences of the holiday.
They also had 100 students take detailed fieldnotes on their Thanksgiving celebrations, supplemented by photographs. The data analysis revealed some common events in the fieldnotes that people rarely remarked on in the interviews. Here are some Thanksgiving rituals you might not realize are rituals:
1. THE GIVING OF THE JOB ADVICE
Teenagers are given a ritual status shift to the adult part of the family, not only through the move from the kids’ table to the grownup table, but also through the career counseling spontaneously offered by aunts, uncles, and anyone else with wisdom to share.
2. THE FORGETTING OF THE INGREDIENT
Oh no! I forgot to put the evaporated milk in the pumpkin pie! As the authors of the Thanksgiving study state, “since there is no written liturgy to insure exact replication each year, sometimes things are forgotten.” In the ritual pattern, the forgetting is followed by lamentation, reassurance, acceptance, and the restoration of comfortable stability. It reinforces the themes of abundance (we’ve got plenty even if not everything works out) and family togetherness (we can overcome obstacles).
3. THE TELLING OF DISASTER STORIES OF THANKSGIVINGS PAST
Remember that time we cooked a green bean casserole and burned the house down? Another way to reinforce the theme of family togetherness is to retell the stories of things that have gone wrong at Thanksgiving and then laugh about them. This ritual can turn ugly, however, if not everyone has gotten to the point where they find the disaster stories funny.
4. THE REAPPROPRIATION OF THE STORE-BOUGHT ITEMS
Transfer a store-bought pie crust to a bigger pan, filling out the extra space with pieces of another store-bought pie crust, and it’s not quite so pre-manufactured anymore. Put pineapple chunks in the Jello, and it becomes something done “our way.” The theme of the importance of the “homemade” emerges in the ritual of slightly changing the convenience foods to make them less convenient.
5. THE PET’S MEAL
The pet is fed special food while everyone looks on and takes photos. This ritual enacts the theme of inclusion also involved in the inviting of those with “nowhere else to go.”
6. THE PUTTING AWAY OF THE LEFTOVERS
In some cultures, feasts are followed by a ritual destruction of the surplus. At Thanksgiving the Puritan value of frugality is embodied in the wrapping and packing up of all the leftovers.
7. THE WALKING
After the eating and the groaning and the belly patting, someone will suggest a walk and a group will form to take a stroll. Sometimes the walkers will simply do laps around the house, but they often head out into the world to get some air. There is usually no destination involved, just a desire to move and feel the satisfied quietness of abundance – and to make some room for dessert.
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credits: mental floss magazine, the graphics fairy
Hilarious Beth! Love 1, 3,5 and 7 the most. If I haven’t wished it to you yet Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours sweety 😊 xx
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Glad you enjoyed them and thanks, jen )
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Fantastic…..happy Thanksgiving:)
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Thanks, janet and to you too)
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Yes! Esp. #3!
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Hah!
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And Happy Thanksgiving Beth.
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Thanks dk, and to you and yours as well –
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Got them all covered except the last one.. 🙂
Have a great day with family and friends.
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Fantastic and thanks, ed. You too )
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Happy Thanksgiving Beth! Good to know my family isn’t too far off base. 😉
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Yes, its always good to feel part of the club ) and hope you had a good one –
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I specialize in the forgetting of the ingredient. I am always the cook …
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Not unusual here either )
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I love this! My family does every single one of these, every year!
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Hah! So funny, and i think we do too ) hope you has a good one today )
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8. People not getting along, sitting far away from each other, arguing, etc.
At least that’s what most people tell me that they don’t like about holiday get-togethers. Oh,and…
9. Men falling asleep or watching TV.
I’ve never known anyone to go outside for a walk, so that one was weird for me:)
I’m looking forward to your holiday stories:) Have fun.
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Holidays being out all sorts of crazy –
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Happy Thanksgiving, wonderful Beth!
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I.l.l.u.m.i.n.a.t.i.n.g. 😀 😀 Number 2 is standard in my kitchen. 😀
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Not surprised , and hope you had a good day, tess )
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Great, and you?
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it was a really good holiday, tess. only my computer took a hit )
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We need to have a talk with our technical helpers and have them understand we are the BOSS. 😀
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Now, why didn’t we learn all this in college…. thanks for completing my education!
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Exactly! And my pleasure )
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These are classic, necessary, and a bedrock of sturdy familiarity, hilarity and comfort, Beth. You are a master of putting your finger on the elusively obvious. Happy Thanksgiving, my friend. Enjoy the day with kids and grands.
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Thanks mark and it was a good day for all ages here, hope yours was too. Got your book and looking forward to reading it. Unfortunately my laptop took on a bit of coffee today so— hope it can be saved )
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Oh, no, Beth, not coffee on the laptop. We simply cannot have a favorite ruining a favorite. Life can’t be that cruel, can it. Please tell me it can be saved, my friend. 😮 Fingers crossed.
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I know – fingers crossed here too !
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5. I remember one year when I still had my little cat that she jumped up on the kitchen table while we were eating and was tasting the whipped cream out of the mixing bowl. I would give the pets some of the turkey too. Probably will again today with my brother in laws dog.
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Hope you went for it today and shared with the dog
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I often wonderd what our pets thought of this funny day set aside for eating. Fun article Beth. Surprisingly, most environments are like that – if you actually take the time to go and see, there is a whole slew of stuff that goes on that is never mentioned. Some of it quite funny and some scary. But inevitably more interesting than the agreed upon activities.
Happy Turkey Day Beth!
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Yes, me too paul ) and hope you had a good one –
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Fantastic!! WE skipped the walk this year and boy, did I miss it! Hope you had a wonderful holiday!
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Thanks, mimi – it was a good one. And the walk does help a bit, doesnt it ?
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Great post. I have friends whose grandfather used to end every meal by loosening his belt, unbuttoning his pants, and crawling under the dining room table to take a nap while the conversation above continued.
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thanks, kate. and that is so funny. i think most families have at least one character somewhat like that and it’s just accepted )
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Hope your Holiday was amazing! Happy Turkey day a day late!
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Thanks, joe and you too )
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Lol. I loved 3 4 7. This Englishman doesn’t do the thanks giving meal and living in Italy I have never seen a large turkey for sale in the butchers. I may have to change this as I have lots to be thankful for. Especially as I have managed to hide Mrs Sensibles wet wooden spoon.
Happy holiday from rainy Italy
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Yes ypu do and good move with the spoon )
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This was good.
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thanks )
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Funny! Guilty!
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Hah!
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The angry ad hominum diatribes of a drunken, Tea-party, anti-intellectual, self-absorbed brother-in-law when he can’t follow the conversation any longer.
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Yes, that can happen too –
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I fell way behind on my reading, it was kind of a hit and miss thing, Beth! I would start to read someone’s post up at my Mom’s then a resident would ask me to relinquish the computer to them. So, somehow I did not read this one and a few others… This was a funny post, Beth!
I love the advice one, there is always a family member who is full of this. Also, the ones who suggest how to fix things including food dishes. I finally told one of my brothers that he was “in charge forever” over the cranberry sauce from scratch! smiles!
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No worries, just read when you can and i’ll do the same –
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