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others.

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‘our similarities bring us to a common ground;
0ur differences allow us to be fascinated by each other.’

-tom robbins, american author

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the obsolete man.

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grilled cheese and a gifted artist.

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Irene and John Demas came into possession of a Maud Lewis painting through a good friend John Kinnear, a patron of their restaurant in Ontario. "John Kinnear, he only ordered grilled cheese sandwiches,” Demas explained. "I was a young chef and the culinary world was just coming up. I was doing a lot of new recipes and I wanted him to try my daily specials, but he never would — he just loved the grilled cheese sandwich.”

Irene and John Demas came into possession of a Maud Lewis painting through a good friend John Kinnear, a patron of their restaurant in Ontario. “John Kinnear, he only ordered grilled cheese sandwiches,” Demas explained. “I was a young chef and the culinary world was just coming up. I was doing a lot of new recipes and I wanted him to try my daily specials, but he never would — he just loved the grilled cheese sandwich.”

The couple’s story of acquiring a rare Maud Lewis  painting thanks to a grilled cheese made headlines, but in an interview with TODAY, Demas explained that her story is more about how food fosters social exchange and community.

According to Demas,  the story starts in London, Ontario, decades ago, in the early ’70s. Demas was a 19-year-old newlywed whose husband worked in real estate and had a good eye for potential. After a discovering a building that had once housed a restaurant, Tony pitched his wife on opening their own restaurant, and together, the two established an eatery called The Villa.

Before then, Demas had zero culinary experience and had never envisioned herself working in a restaurant kitchen. But as she tells it, on The Villa’s opening day, the restaurant’s chef had one too many beers, and Tony asked his wife to step in. “I knew nothing honestly about food,” she explained. “But I did know how to make a grilled cheese, so I thought, ‘OK, our special’s just going to be grilled cheese sandwiches. That’s it.’ That’s the only thing I knew how to (make) … and maybe boil water.”

The sandwiches were a hit, and the restaurant managed to stay afloat. Sometime around 1973, it was there that the couple came to meet future regulars, Audrey and John Kinnear. After a while, the couples became friendly, and⁠ — because it was the ’70s⁠ — they decided to start making some trades.

“After a while, he started bringing in some of his art and asked my husband if we could trade for their lunches for his art,” Demas explained. “We happened to really love his art. He did some very beautiful watercolors … he did a lot of European kind of stuff, English countrysides and beautiful animals.”

“We never really kept tabs, to say, ‘OK, well, you were in, and you spent $15. Now, you know, you’re gonna give us $15 credit,'” she continued. “There was such a wonderful relationship with the Kinnears.”

Nothing was a tit for tat. They simply offered and took and, eventually, one day, Kinnear came in with a set of paintings that weren’t his own to trade. Demas remembers that Kinnear told the story of the artist he’d met who had limited mobility (Maud Lewis had rheumatoid arthritis) and was of simple means. He set up six artworks from different artists around chairs and against glassware and presented them to Demas and her husband.

“(Kinnear) came in with this very strange-looking art. It was on board, unframed, a very childlike, very primitive art that I’d never seen before,” she explained. “I’m not an art expert, and we weren’t art collectors. We just knew what we liked.”

But one of the paintings stopped Demas in her tracks. “There was one special painting that really jumped out at me that was very bright, and it was a little black truck. All the other ones I didn’t care for had about two or three different versions of cats … I was pregnant at that time. And (I thought), ‘Well, if it’s a boy, we can hang it in in his room’ … it turns out I picked the right one.”

Demas did have a boy, and after placing it in a frame with a few letters Lewis sent to Kinnear, she hung the painting in her newborn’s room. Decades passed, and so, too, did the Kinnears. Then came a shift in the art world.

Lewis, a folk artist from Nova Scotia who’d never achieved any financial success for her art, became a topic of interest in the early aughts.

“There was an article written about her in one of the newspapers,” Demas explained, remarking that it wasn’t until around 2000 that she began to hear the familiar name Kinnear had mentioned to her decades before. “More and more people were collecting and buying her art … Things started popping up. I started seeing her art at auction sales. You know, and they were bringing $2,000, $3,000 at that time.”

Then, as Demas recalls, someone found a Lewis painting at a Goodwill store that went up for auction and sold for $45,000.

“But I wasn’t really looking into it because, like I said, we loved the piece,” Demas explained. “We didn’t buy it as an investment or didn’t think that it was a great piece of art even.”

Still, Demas had the foresight to have the piece insured. At the time, Lewis’ art was on the rise but not yet a hot commodity, and the insurers Demas spoke to didn’t recognize the artist’s name. Their ignorance set Demas on a path of appraisal; after talking to auctioneers, she discovered that the black truck was unique. Demas found out that Lewis often incorporated the same images in her art — cats, barns, cows — but the black truck was special. To this day, no one else has reported finding a black truck in a Lewis painting.

Various auctioneers pursued Demas, but two brothers from Miller and Miller were determined. Leaning on the trope that a way to a person’s heart is through their stomach, the two auctioneers drove through sleet and snow to meet Demas and her husband face-to-face and to present them with a box of butter tarts. Not long after their visit, after encouragement from her children, Demas put the piece up for auction.

At a viral auction on May 14, the hammer struck at $272, 548. The letters sold for about $55,000.

Demas recalled the bittersweet sentiment of parting with the painting after decades, but also noted how her earnings will be put to good use. She and her husband Tony are now retired. She works on and off as a private chef, and her husband, who is now 90, has been traveling. Currently, he’s waiting for her to come to join him at the home they own in Athens, Greece.

“He’s over in Greece, and he’s climbing mountains and chasing goats,” Demas said with a smile. “Gathering fresh herbs and waiting for me to come over.”Demas’s relationship with her husband is just one of the many reasons she feels an appreciation for Lewis and her art.

“I think she put so much of herself in these paintings and she just painted happy things because she had such a such a sad life that she wanted to she put everything in her art. She was abused, all her life,” Demas explained, noting her gratitude for her husband, who she says has treated her well in their 50 years together, and whom she’s still very much in love with.

And to think that this story of love, friendship and art all started with a simple sandwich.

“If it weren’t for the grilled cheese, it just would have been another Maud Lewis painting coming up for auction,” Demas said. “I know it would have gone it would have broken all records because it is such a special and unique painting and with the letters, but I think it was the grilled cheese story that really let everybody in the world know was there.”

I share this story on National Grilled Cheese Day and out of love for Maud Lewis and her work.

I first learned about Maud Lewis after seeing a movie about her,

‘Maudie,’ the true story of one of Canada’s greatest folk artists.

She had a very hard life, was an incredible natural artist, and I love her art.

‘the heart is poured like water through the workings of the hand’

-Laura Jaworcki

Source credit: Alex Portée,  TODAY Digital

raindrops.

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‘There are a finite number of times we get to do anything and after the first time it’s a count. We only get to look at the sky so many times in a life. There are a finite number of rainstorms and seasons that we’ll witness, and the number seems so big until it doesn’t. We never know when will be the last time we taste something or see someone or do anything at all. And for all the money in the world, time is not for sale no matter what the doctors say when we beg for more of it toward the end, finally seeing that we forgot to count the raindrops.’

-Cory Richards, The Color of Everything: A Journey to Quiet the Chaos Within

(Random House)

Art credit: David Hockney: The Arrival of Spring, Normandy, 2020

 at the Art Institute of Chicago

rhymes and romance.

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not understood.

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CASH – 3.19

DEBIT – 3.29

CASH & DEBIT

SAME PRICE.

are you sure?

is it me?

am i having trouble doing the math?

or

am I having trouble reading the words?

did someone quit in the middle of doing the sign?

where did it all break down?

please advise.

‘confusion is a word we have invented for an order which is not understood.’

-henry miller

it’s spring.

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And this is the lady

Whom everyone loves,

Ms. Violet

in her purple gown

Or, on special occasions,

A dress the color

Of sunlight. She sits

In the mossy weeds and waits

To be noticed.

She loves dampness.

She loves attention.

She loves especially

To be picked by careful fingers,

Young fingers, entranced

By what has happened

To the world.

We, the older ones,

Call it Spring,

And we have been through it

Many times.

But there is still nothing

Like the children bringing home

Such happiness

In their small hands.

“Children, It’s Spring”

~Mary Oliver

 

 

 

art credit: anatomyofmind/etsy

sitzfleisch.

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sitzfleisch

noun:

1. a person’s buttocks

2. power to endure or to persevere in an activity; staying power

example sentences:

‘there was no intermission in the play, and by the fifth act I was feeling the long running time in my sitzfleisch.’

‘eunice’s grandson is a piano prodigy with the sitzfleisch to practice his instrument for four hours every day.’

‘after a few bad grades his freshman year, quentin developed the sitzfleisch to develop study plans for each class and stick to it.’

now is the time we really need to live the second meaning of this word – staying  power

word origin: German, late 19th century

why this word?

While the literal definition for “sitzfleisch” is “buttocks,” the metaphorical definition is more evocative — it refers to the power to persevere through an activity all the way to the end. In this usage, the buttocks are not merely the flesh upon which one sits, but rather a demonstration of the power and endurance required to sit for a long time when others might sooner have given up. “Sitzfleisch” is taken from the same word in German, which is based on the Yiddish “zitsfleysh.” In German, it is formed by combining “sitzen” (meaning “to sit”) and “Fleisch” (meaning “flesh”).

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crushed.

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the cats’ gnome forgot to look up

 we forgot to look down

when moving the dresser

 flipping it upside down to be refinished

now i hope the gnome is not finished!

‘how many joys are crushed under foot because people look up to the sky and disregard what is at their feet?’

-katharina elisabeth goethe

 

 

 

being alive.

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a week filled with celebrations of all kinds

a birthday for my cousin/uncle

(we can’t figure it out exactly)

my grandfather and his father were brothers

76 is a number too big for just one cake

a breakfast get together

with my retired colleagues

at a wonderful coney island

 I promise I did not order

this hot fudge cream puff

(but not to say I won’t next time)

a candle lit for a a friend’s new grand baby arriving tonight or tomorrow

(hopefully by the time you read this)

who will be the brightest, shiny-est, youngest member

of a longtime group of friends

life is full of life.

‘don’t save anything for a special occasion, being alive is a special occasion.’

-mary engelbreit