Category Archives: friendship

shared humanity.

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photo by Michel Porro – Getty Images

(a reblog fr0m August in 2018)

in yet another amazing case of serendipity

i was at the school where i taught

(in the united states)

attending a professional development session

led by colleagues who were describing a wonderful project

they had undertaken with their older students.

during the last school year they had worked on design thinking projects

intended to help our world’s environment in some way.

throughout the process

their teachers provided the students

with a wide range of sources of information having to do with their area of interest.

 they passed around some of the sample articles they had used.

imagine my surprise when reading the random article that i was handed

when i saw the photographic credit on one of the pages

(that originated from another country)

realizing that i had a personal connection to it.

it read:

‘michel porro – getty images’ 

michel porro is a long time friend of mine who i happened to meet

when we were both working at the world cup in my city 24 years ago. (now, 32 years ago)

michel, at the time was a photojournalist from the netherlands, stationed in hong kong, working for reuters, and covering events all over the world. i was in advertising, taking time off to work in the media tent for the duration of the event. we met there when he came to pick up his credentials. we continued to run into each other in a variety of places, though we never had the chance to meet up outside of a working situation, try as we might.

we finally had the chance, on the last night before he was to leave to return to europe. we’d planned to meet after the last match was over and his story filed and chose a time and place. unfortunately brazil won the final match, leading to a chain of unusual events that ruined our last chance to meet, when they closed down the roads where i was, leaving us with no way to contact each other. (pre-cell phones). instead of exchanging phone numbers we had decided to share our addresses to stay in touch, figuring we’d meet that night.

since that time, (24 years ago), (now 32 years ago), he’s lived in different places and traveled the world as a photographer, finally settling in one place, starting his own photo business. i left advertising, went to grad school, changed careers, raised my daughters, became a teacher, still living in the states, and went on with my own life’s adventures. we’ve stayed pen pals, following what’s happened in each other’s lives, our careers, our relationships, news, and shared pictures. i wrote an earlier blog about our long distance and unlikely long term friendship and the link is below, but the photos have disappeared from the old post. i may try to find them again one day and add them back in.

https://ididnthavemyglasseson.com/2014/06/22/what-a-wonderful-thing-is-the-mail-capable-of-conveying-across-continents-a-warm-human-hand-clasp-author-unknown/

what a strange set of things fell into place

upon seeing his name on the photo credit on that day

years later

at a meeting at my school,

on a page i’d been handed randomly

selected by one of the teachers

for their student

 i had happened to notice the photo credit

i texted to tell him about my surprise.

he texted back surprised as well.

our paths continue to cross in the most interesting ways.

B Kennedy -to Michel

small world, Michel. 

Sent from my iPhone

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Michel Porro – to me

Wow Beth, that is amazing. Thank you so much for sharing. Boyat (the subject in the photo) is a quiet man with a big mission. 

I met him twice for 2 photoshoots.

How are you doing? I’m in Italy at the moment. The world is a turbulent place isn’t it?

You do good work.

Best

Michel

“this idea of shared humanity and the connections that we make with one another –

that’s what, in fact, makes life worth living.”

-clint smith

I promise to sing.

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love this picture of my friends

one an engineer and one a doctor

who broke into song

‘so long farewell’ from ‘the sound of music’

as they said goodbye to each other after a long weekend away

spent relaxing with us

an eclectic group of longtime friends

”dear best friend, if you ever feel bad, call me.

i promise to sing for you. then you can decide what’s worse.”

-author unknown

 

 

mall moms.

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happy quad of moms

babies in tow

meet at the mall

to workout

dance, laugh, chant, count, sing

most of all 

to enjoy time spent

in each other’s company

away from the world

outside those automatic doors

 

 “friendship is a wildly underrated medication.”

—anna deavere smith

 

*Anna Deavere Smith (born 1950) is an American actress, playwright, and professor. 

three friends, two seasons, one day.

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 warm and rainy early evening in town

pleasant ending 

to a relaxed day with friends

between the holidays

good balm for the soul

feels almost like spring

later tonight

once we’re all home again

 temperature drops

snow squalls and winds arrive

reminding us that winter is here.

‘happiness is a collection of joyful experiences shared with soul friends.’

-amy leigh mercree

ann arbor, michigan, usa, december 2025

the gift of nothing.

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The Gift of Nothing considers two main subjects:

the concept of nothing and the value of friendship.

What do you give a friend who already has everything?

Why, you give them nothing at all.

One of my favorite books, now celebrating its 20th anniversary, ‘The Gift Of Nothing,’ explores the meaning of friendship and the meaning of gifts.

What is a friend and what is a gift? Things might not be what actually make people happy. Perhaps it is the people and our relationships with them that really make us happy.

Why do we give gifts? Is it to show that we care about the person and that we are happy to be with them? If so, is the gift truly important or could the real gift be spending time with them?

Originally written for children, but loved by all ages.

 

Author/Illustrator: Patrick McConnell, New York Times best selling author and Caldecott honor artist, creator of the popular comic strip Mutts.

Publisher: Little, Brown Books

“the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.

because when you give your time,

you are giving away a portion of your life that you will never get back.”

 -author unknown

if fairies may.

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heading to our longtime friends’ fairy castle house

for an early christmas celebration 

on a cold, snowy night

 lots of warmth inside

food, drink, cheer, stories,

meetings, memories 

singing with the piano

twelve days of christmas

part of each room

sang a different number

everyone tried

some got lost

some forgot

some sang lots

some sang little

 piano played on

all were laughing.

“Lady, dear, if Fairies may / For a moment lay aside /

Cunning tricks and elfish play, / ‘Tis at happy Christmas-tide.”

-Lewis Carroll, capturing fairies joining the Christmas spirit.

age with mischief.

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our friend, the birthday queen 

celebrates

with a relaxed and festive pool party 

we go around the circle

sharing stories of our connections

while she glows and cheers the day.

‘your time on earth is limited, don’t try to age with grace.

age with mischief, audacity, and a damn good story to tell.

-author unknown

 

 

 

‘don’t plan it all, let life surprise you a little.’ – julia alvarez

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fifteen of us met in a parking lot

at the appointed time

boarded an unmarked rock ‘n roll party bus

equipped with a very patient driver

70-80’s style

disco lights, music, coolers, bevs, decor, ice

drove to our unsuspecting, just-retired friend’s house

got him on the bus and surprised him

then we were sixteen strong

drove him to detroit

to celebrate him

played games

had an axe throwing competition

(we were all unscathed)

followed by

a long delicious japanese dinner

rock ‘n roll bussed back

 laughing singing dancing storytelling hugging

 a day turned into a night to remember

he stood to speak

 said he could not believe it

he was overflowing with joy and tears

he was so happy.

‘the chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.’

-Kevin Kelly

happy hour.

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fun spontaneous happy hour yesterday

with longtime friends

relaxed and glad to be together

sharing stories and catching up.

 

 

‘friends come and go like waves in the ocean but the true ones stick like an octopus on your face.’

-simplereminders

 

art credit: pinterest

 

the nature of friendship.

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such a lovely and delicate web was there to greet us 

a welcoming art installation created by a spider

‘the bird a nest, the spider a web, man friendship.’

-william blake, poet

  blake suggests that as birds create and live in nests, and spiders create and live in webs, so humans create and live in friendships. it suggests friendship is as complex, natural, and beautiful as the first two.

 

 

 

 

photo credit: thank you, cws