i love telling stories about things that have happened and each time I tell them (just ask my family and friends), they may be just the slightest bit different, but they are as I remember them. perhaps i’m an unreliable narrator, as memoirists are known to be, and i’m okay with that-
‘I won’t tell you the story the way it happened, I’ll tell it to you the way I remember it.’
-Pam Houston
the actual definition of an unreliable narrator as written into literature or film, is the following:
an unreliable narrator is a character who cannot be trusted, one whose credibility is compromised.They can be found in a wide range from children to mature characters.
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‘I think that at the end of the day I’m drawn to a certain level of ambiguous storytelling that requires hard thought and work in the same way that the New York Times crossword puzzle does: Sometimes you just want to put it down or throw it out the window, but there’s a real rewarding sense if you feel like you’ve cracked it.
-damon lindelof
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When people ask me to tell them things about my time as an EMT, I often sense that I have altered the story over time. I suspect that happens when I remember something extra, or have forgotten a vital part of it. 😊Best wishes, Pete.
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yes, that’s exactly how it is –
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We remember as it touches us. And that just fine. We do the best we can. We each contain multitudes 👏🏽
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I feel exactly the same –
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Yep, I think I’m a qualified ‘Unreliable Narrator’ …
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same -)
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doesn’t everyone tell it the way they remember it…
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yes!
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It’s interesting to me how siblings can remember something that happened in the family in different ways. Stories often do not match. What’s difficult is when one sibling INSISTS their story is the correct version.
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Yes!
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Sometimes, I think we all can be unreliable narrators. But there are times we get it mostly right.
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Yes, I hope so
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The unreliable narrator is becoming such a a popular trope
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It’s my real self
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Welcome to the club.
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Thanks!
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i think the main point is that “‘I won’t tell you the story the way it happened, I’ll tell it to you the way I remember it.’”….
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Yes!
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😄
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I always say that I would be a terrible witness because I would probably remember incorrectly or not at all.
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Same!
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I am an unreliable narrator. Sometimes I adjust the story based on someone’s input and maybe it even gets closer to the truth. But I am sure stories change based on feedback. If people yawn, I shorten the story. I am sure I adjust stories to eliminate what offended or exaggerate like crazy whatever is getting a laugh!
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You’re able to read the room very well, which is why you make a great attorney or would have made a great vaudeville performer
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Ha, I am on a waiting list for the Vaude Villa Senior Living Home.
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start practicing your juggling
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“As I remember it” was about the best anyone could do … until smartphones came along.
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Right
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I loved listening to stories of my Granma from her being a child.
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Oh, absolutely. I love when my sisters and I get together and we talk about something that we experienced. Not one of us remembers it exactly the same!
Makes life interesting, I say!
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Yes, exactly
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I like to remember things the way I imagined they were!
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We all have our ways
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Before his passing this year, my younger brother wrote a column in the San Francisco Chronicle, in the space once taken by Mark Twain. He and I learned to follow the advice of that great writer, “Don’t let the truth get in the way of a good story” and “There is nothing the matter with this, except that it ain’t so.”
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Yay, thanks for this!
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You imagination at play! Leave it to the robots to be exactly the same every time. 🤖 I may have taught the lessons throughout the day, but never exactly the same. 🥱 (With that said, I was happy to receive the feedback of “reliable narrator” regarding the protagonist from one of my early book reviews.) Great post!
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Thanks!
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Thank you, Beth.
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You know, if I had seen that Damon Lindelof quote before investing so much time in “Lost,” I might never have bothered! Unreliable narrator indeed…
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right!
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Aren’t we all like that.
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I sure think so –
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👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
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So much fun and there’s even a hat.
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that’s right!
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I do always question memoirs because to your point, we remember things differently from how we actually experienced them. So much goes into it – context of where you were and now in life.
The concept of an unreliable narrator in fiction and film is an interesting one. I’ve seen clever takes on this and it’s fascinating.
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yes, I agree with you and in fiction, they can have an important purpose
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I hope your readers don’t misinterpret this comment, but I WANT THIS HAT. It’s the English teacher in me, haha. Thanks for sharing this.
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me too!
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I think of this when a family story is retold differently each time over the course of 20 years. There are a lot of unreliable narrators out there.
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oh, are there ever!
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I don’t really care how unreliable the narrative is as long as its compellingly written !
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same!!
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It me. Sent from my iPad
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same
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The title of this post made me think we were going to be talking about Pete the cat. :)
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actually, it fits!)
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Sometimes we embellish our previous tale just a little bit, lol.
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’tis true –
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This makes me think of my son. 🤣.
He says I exagerate when I’m retelling
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I have been told that once or many times as well by my daughters)
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We can turn to Mark Twain for a classic take (actually three) along those lines:
1907: When I was younger I could remember anything, whether it had happened or not; but my faculties are decaying, now, and soon I shall be so I cannot remember any but the things that happened.
1912: When I was younger I could remember anything, whether it happened or not; but I am getting old, and soon I shall remember only the latter.
1924: When I was younger I could remember anything, whether it had happened or not; but my faculties are decaying now, and soon I shall be so I cannot remember any but the things that never happened.
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thanks so much for these
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My siblings don’t remember my stories the way I do.
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yes, same here, Jennie
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😀
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That baseball cap hahaha
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right!
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I love the truth of this quote: ‘I won’t tell you the story the way it happened, I’ll tell it to you the way I remember it.’ I always *think* I’m remembering things accurately, but who knows?!
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exactly!
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:)
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We’re all just good storytellers 😜😂
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that’s it!
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I enjoy reading your tales every time, Beth.
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