Category Archives: friendship

three friends, two seasons, one day.

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 warm and rainy early evening in town

pleasant ending 

to a relaxed day with friends

between the holidays

good balm for the soul

feels almost like spring

later tonight

once we’re all home again

 temperature drops

snow squalls and winds arrive

reminding us that winter is here.

‘happiness is a collection of joyful experiences shared with soul friends.’

-amy leigh mercree

ann arbor, michigan, usa, december 2025

the gift of nothing.

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The Gift of Nothing considers two main subjects:

the concept of nothing and the value of friendship.

What do you give a friend who already has everything?

Why, you give them nothing at all.

One of my favorite books, now celebrating its 20th anniversary, ‘The Gift Of Nothing,’ explores the meaning of friendship and the meaning of gifts.

What is a friend and what is a gift? Things might not be what actually make people happy. Perhaps it is the people and our relationships with them that really make us happy.

Why do we give gifts? Is it to show that we care about the person and that we are happy to be with them? If so, is the gift truly important or could the real gift be spending time with them?

Originally written for children, but loved by all ages.

 

Author/Illustrator: Patrick McConnell, New York Times best selling author and Caldecott honor artist, creator of the popular comic strip Mutts.

Publisher: Little, Brown Books

“the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.

because when you give your time,

you are giving away a portion of your life that you will never get back.”

 -author unknown

if fairies may.

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heading to our longtime friends’ fairy castle house

for an early christmas celebration 

on a cold, snowy night

 lots of warmth inside

food, drink, cheer, stories,

meetings, memories 

singing with the piano

twelve days of christmas

part of each room

sang a different number

everyone tried

some got lost

some forgot

some sang lots

some sang little

 piano played on

all were laughing.

“Lady, dear, if Fairies may / For a moment lay aside /

Cunning tricks and elfish play, / ‘Tis at happy Christmas-tide.”

-Lewis Carroll, capturing fairies joining the Christmas spirit.

age with mischief.

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our friend, the birthday queen 

celebrates

with a relaxed and festive pool party 

we go around the circle

sharing stories of our connections

while she glows and cheers the day.

‘your time on earth is limited, don’t try to age with grace.

age with mischief, audacity, and a damn good story to tell.

-author unknown

 

 

 

‘don’t plan it all, let life surprise you a little.’ – julia alvarez

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fifteen of us met in a parking lot

at the appointed time

boarded an unmarked rock ‘n roll party bus

equipped with a very patient driver

70-80’s style

disco lights, music, coolers, bevs, decor, ice

drove to our unsuspecting, just-retired friend’s house

got him on the bus and surprised him

then we were sixteen strong

drove him to detroit

to celebrate him

played games

had an axe throwing competition

(we were all unscathed)

followed by

a long delicious japanese dinner

rock ‘n roll bussed back

 laughing singing dancing storytelling hugging

 a day turned into a night to remember

he stood to speak

 said he could not believe it

he was overflowing with joy and tears

he was so happy.

‘the chief prevention against getting old is to remain astonished.’

-Kevin Kelly

happy hour.

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fun spontaneous happy hour yesterday

with longtime friends

relaxed and glad to be together

sharing stories and catching up.

 

 

‘friends come and go like waves in the ocean but the true ones stick like an octopus on your face.’

-simplereminders

 

art credit: pinterest

 

the nature of friendship.

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such a lovely and delicate web was there to greet us 

a welcoming art installation created by a spider

‘the bird a nest, the spider a web, man friendship.’

-william blake, poet

  blake suggests that as birds create and live in nests, and spiders create and live in webs, so humans create and live in friendships. it suggests friendship is as complex, natural, and beautiful as the first two.

 

 

 

 

photo credit: thank you, cws

 

not every lake.

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on the first day of fall with friends 

lake michigan

‘not every lake dreams to be an ocean.’

-memet murat ildan

cows just wanna’ have fun.

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Cows have best friends. Lists of the world’s most intelligent animals don’t often feature cows, but they have more emotional depth than they get credit for. A 2011 study by scientists at the University of Northampton in England revealed that not only do cows have best friends,  but they also get stressed out when separated from their BFFs. The research was conducted by comparing heart rates and cortisol levels during 30-minute sessions in which a cow was penned with a “preferred partner” it was known to have a close bond with, then a “familiar but non-preferred individual.” When the besties shared a pen together, their heart rates were lower and other signs of stress were also reduced.

Cows aren’t the only animals that form friendships. Chimpanzees and bonobos do, too, as do several others, including dolphins, horses, certain birds, and marmots. Dolphins can identify their friends by taste, whereas most other creatures are known for simply grooming, remaining in close proximity to, and touching their besties — capuchin monkeys, for example, gently stick their fingers in one another’s eye sockets as a bonding ritual.

 

source credits:  gary larson image, university of northampton, vegnews.com, interesting facts

out to sea.

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at the lake with friends

swimming, floating, slow boating, lolling around

we encounter this merry band on shore

you never know who you will run across

when out to sea

best to make quick friends of them.

‘the circus arrives without warning.’

-erin morgenstern

 

 

irish hills, michigan, usa – summer 2024