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when in london many years ago

i happened upon these two in a park

struck by the natural warmth between them

i took this picture without their knowing

hoping i could somehow capture

the closeness 

the easy comfort

between them

in that moment in time

 it was simply impossible to do so

but every time i look at this

it makes me feel that warmth again

just for a moment.  


“there is a certain phase in the life of the aged

when the warmth of the heart seems to increase in direct proportion with the years.”

-john phillips marquand

a special kind.



a little girl

who was once my student

and still a friend of mine

opened up a treasure chest

to show me

one piece of clothing after another

that she created all on her own

after teaching herself to sew

and I couldn’t be more proud.



met my friend and shared some time and a pot of tea.
“meanwhile, let us have a sip of tea. the afternoon glow is brightening the bamboos, the fountains are bubbling with delight, the soughing of the pines is heard in our kettle. let us dream of evanescence and linger in the beautiful foolishness of things.”
Kakuzō Okakura, The Book of Tea





missing her.


when the kinders learned that their classmate

was injured and recovering at home

they quickly gathered

to make their friend a special card

wishing her well


letting her know

in their own way

how much they were missing her.

“without a sense of caring, there can be no sense of community.”

-anthony j. d’angelo

amy’s choice.


oh, amy what have you done?

after a bit of an unexplained absence

and when rejoining us outside at her picnic

amy tells us that she was busy inside

setting her mother up with her old iPad

and is already feeling a bit of remorse and worry

that this choice may have created

a life-long need for her tech support

and round-the-clock calls to her

yearning for immediate answers

to the endless questions as to the subtleties and mysteries

contained within the world of apple products.

her brother quickly makes it clear

that he is hands-off

and is not in any way involved in this endeavor.

she speaks openly of her fear

while the only other things we know

that she is afraid of are mascots

though this new level of fear

may have even topped that.

we all reassure her that she is a good daughter for having done this

while at the same time privately harboring

our own personal doubts

about the potential risk/reward factor involved in her choice.

about 3 minutes went by

and this is a picture of amy re-entering her house

after she has been called in

to where her mother sits with her new iPad

and her first ‘question/glitch.’

she looks frightened and unsure of what awaits her inside.


“choices are the hinges of destiny.”

-edwin markham




the big launch

(elton musk would be jealous)

i recently had the pleasure

of attending my dear friend’s

book launch tea party.

i’ve known her as a caregiver from way back

when i taught her 3 children

and met a kindred spirit.

just some of those she’s cared for:

a menagerie of rescued pets

a kind and funny husband

three beautiful children

who became her family

when she traveled to korea

to find them

and bring them home

 a feisty (highly spirited?) irish mother

all under her roof at one time

all the recipients of her loving care

even in the most challenging situations.

especially then.

all while working full time outside of her home

as an event planner, caterer, actress, and professional speaker

and she has written a book

about how to care for yourself and others

while finding your balance in that equation.

it’s a beauty of a book

 full of reminders, tips, and love.

i’d recommend it for anyone

who has cared for someone, or has been cared for by someone.

ever the welcoming hostess

we shared lovely tea

and conversation

among many who care

about this amazing woman.

“there are only four kinds of people in the world.
those who have been caregivers.
those who are currently caregivers.
those who will be caregivers,
and those who will need a caregiver.”

― rosalyn carter


“allow yourself a few minutes to relax with your copy of this book and pour yourself a cuppa so you can Take a Break – Before You Break.”

–Breeda Miller

now available on amazon or BreedaMiller.com