not me sitting with my three daughters
but hired meercat models looking very similar
after i’ve just called each of them by one or more of their sibling’s names once again
since for some reason i thought it was a good idea to name all of them with the same first letter
(i’m a fan of alliteration)
and with two syllables
and rarely have called them by the correct name on the first try since birth
so they each pretty much answer to all of them.
According to Quartz Magazine, if you’re in a particularly bad mood, getting called by your sibling’s name might make you feel like the offending parent doesn’t care enough to keep their kids straight. But according to a 2016 study published in the journal Memory and Cognition, your parents might actually mistake you for your siblings because they care about you.
A team of students in Duke University’s Department of Psychology and Neuroscience conducted a series of surveys to find out who gets misnamed, who misnames them, and why it happens. Some instances appeared to have been caused by phonetic similarities between names—e.g. you accidentally called your boss “Katherine” (your cousin’s name) instead of “Kathleen.” But the survey results also pointed to strong semantic trends. In other words, family members are often called other family members’ names, friends are often called other friends’ names, and people outside those two categories are often mistaken for other people outside them.
Basically, as the researchers explained, we build semantic networks in our brains where we can group similar information together and recall it easily. Facts about your immediate family members, for example, may be stored in one semantic network; while details about friends might go in another one. In your mom’s mind, then, your and your sister’s names are essentially in the same basket, and your mom might unwittingly grab your sister’s when she meant to grab yours. What the researchers argue is that it’s a little less about the mistake and more about the basket: Parents love their kids, so they put you all in the same top-tier basket.
The results also suggest that some family member baskets aren’t just reserved for humans. A staggering 41 of the 42 pet-related misnaming incidents involved calling pets by family members’ names or vice versa, rather than mixing up two pets’ names. And most of those incidents involved dogs, specifically.
“Given the scarcity of misnaming episodes involving the names of family pets other than dogs, our data suggest that dogs may be a central part of (at least some) families … as human-like members, whereas cats and other pets, although they may be part of the family, are not categorized as human-like,” the authors wrote in the study.
If you’re about to get defensive on behalf of your cat, whom you very much consider a human-like part of your family, keep in mind that 42 is a small sample size. And the whole study only included about 1700 participants, who were all reporting misnaming episodes remembered from their past—leaving plenty of room for human error. In short, as is so often the case with scientific studies, more research is needed. That said, try not to take it personally if your dad mistakes you for the dog.
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“i cannot tell what the dickens his name is.”
-william shakespeare
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Story credits: Quartz Magazine -By Samantha A. Deffler, Christin M. Ogle, Cassidy Fox, and David C. Rubin
Current and former members of the Noetics Laboratory at Duke University
Ah, those carefully thought out names and reasons can be ones undoing!
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absolutely!
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Love those meercats. My mum used to use the wrong names all the time and we laughed it off. I do it with my children all the time and call it ‘Mum syndrome’. It just happens when you give birth to the second child…. it mixes up your braincells. No big deal as long as your children are not offended. We ususally laugh.
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yes, I think we all just laugh and accept it )
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Another great post, Bess! I mean Beth! 😁
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thanks so much, chad.
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I’m doing it all the time, even confusing their names with those of their kid’s!
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same! )
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😂😱
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My name was never Dale, it was LisaTracyDale (or some variation) as it was for my sisters! I remember one year my sister’s sister-in-law was all insulted that her father-in-law called her hubby by his brother’s name. “He doesn’t know his own children?” she huffed… I looked at her and said: “You’re an only child aren’t you?” LOL… She had never been the recipient of the misnaming.
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I so get every word of this!))
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😀
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Well, that’s fascinating!
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I think so too
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😊
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Haha .. my mum used to get our names mixed up all the time(there was 4 of us), but we knew who she meant !! .. or we were supposed to know who she meant … but being called the dog’s name, ,’Goldie’ was confusing …and I often got called my sister’s name ‘Miffy’ … not even close to Ivor !!
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When I had my first daughter, I often called her sandy, my family dog’s name. Both family members who I loved
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I think it’s the love part that mum’s get right 😄😍
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Yes!
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My mom had 11 siblings, she then had 8 children. We were misnamed all the time. After she got tired of calling out the wrong names she would say “damnit, you know who you are!”
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I love this and would sometimes yell out -“whoever is doing it, just stop!!” Skills )
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😂 so much easier than the role call!
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Right!
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Haha…it happens all the time. And I have only 2 daughters 😝
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Yep!
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My father often called me by the wrong name, Beth. Mark became Michael. And I was his only son.
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That’s so funny
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This is super interesting, Beth. I do it all the time. I remember calling my teachers Mom a few times and I know my kids did that too! Has that ever happened to you?
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Yes! And I even had one call me grandpa!!!)
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Haha!
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Yup. My sons Jared and Justin still tease me about their “bro” name, especially when I was mad at them — JAARRSSTTIN!
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That’s so funny
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I grew up with my mom who often messed up our names enough she would just call all three of us and hoped the one she really needed would show up lol also.. My husband’s aunts mom and their family dog have a similar name and ALWAYS ALWAYS I am so scared to mix up their names! Imagine calling someone a known dog’s name!
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Hahahaha
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it’s always fun to read the science behind why we do certain things; glad to know I am not alone in making such mistakes. Who knew it’s all done in the name of love? 🙂
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I’m always fascinated by the explanations and who knew is right?
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👍
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Fascinating and explains a lot…my husband usually goes through about five names (including the horse and the dog) before he gets to the right one 🙂
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He just loves you all
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🙂
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Your blog is interesting and amusing as usual. Love the memories of being called my sisters’ names!
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Thanks, Connie, and now you know why
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Super interesting! All my kids names start with the same letter (M) too… I end up pointing at the one I want and just going Mmmmmmm and hoping they’ll get the idea in the time it takes for me to actually remember their name! Haha! But my grandkids do not start with M (although all of their middle names do, in ode to the family tradition) and I can’t get their names right half the time either. I feel better now- it’s because I love them all sooo much! I can’t wait to tell them, whoever they are! Haha!
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That’s right and we have science behind us!)
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Don’t think I’ve ever had to deal with miss-naming. I don’t remember it growing up, either. But I do remember friends laughing about it. Interesting stuff.
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Lucky!
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According to my mother, she had four sons: Jim Kip Pat John (that’s me), Pat Kip John Jim, John Pat Jim Kip, and Kip Jim John Pat.
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Hahahaha
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I’m one of five kids, so we heard Mom’s “roll call” all the time. She never included the dog, though.
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At least, there’s that )
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LOL. On bad days, when my brain wasn’t keeping up, I called them by number–Kid One, “Kid Two”–and they didn’t mind because at least they knew which one I meant:)
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Ha – I love that!
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My grandma did that all the time, calling me Margaret or Linda (two cousins closeish in age). I didn’t mind.
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I think everyone gets that is just talking to a loved one, and specific names are not a very important detail)
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Yep. 🙂
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With 4 sisters and a brother, I was never mis-named…I was rarely spoken to!
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Ha! A whole other phenomenon)
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Very interesting
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It makes sense and yes, so interesting
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Thank God, I am not the only one mixing up names at times… lol
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I can recall embarrassing instances in my early days of teaching calling students by their wrong names 🙂
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still happens to me all the time )
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I’m an only child, so if my mom called me by a different name, it was just wishful thinking.
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so funny
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Unfortunately, it’s true. LOL She did not get what she wanted.
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hahaha…i am very familiar with this. two boys, named, Justin and Jason….um, let’s just say that I’ve mistakenly called them each other’s name, well, many, many times…
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i have no doubt )
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My dad frequently messed up the names of his four sons. I never took offense to it because I knew he loved us. It’s just that sometimes our mouths start talking before we’re ready to complete our thought.
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that’s it!
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Great research! 😆
Nobody got misnamed in our family, but thankfully I never felt my brother Justin, or me (Kristin – fairly close, don’t you think?) or even the family dog Shauna, was not loved.
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good to hear
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This is so interesting. For years my mom called my little brother Tony, who was her little brother. And when I had my son, I often call him Richie, who was my little brother. (My son is an only child so I can’t call him a sibling name…lol). Mom and I thought we were a little daft…turns out we just really liked those little brothers!
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That’s right!
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I do the same thing, but mine don’t have the same first letter and syllables. Oh, my!
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Haha
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My Grandparents always called my Uncle by the dog’s name. Does that mean they loved the dog more than my Uncle? 😉
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Loved both!
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To this day I occasionally call my son by my deceased dogs name and he’s 25, even sometimes my wife 😆
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ha!
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😆
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My mom does this all the time with my sister Becky and me. Yeah, Becky and Betsy. No wonder, right? She named us like you named yours. 🙂 I sent this post to my mom and Becky with the subject like: Vindication for Mom!
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ha! at last!
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Nice post
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thank you
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