advice to this pothole from a pretty good writer:
“have a heart that never hardens,
and a temper that never tires,
and a touch that never hurts.”
we went to
one of my grandie’s soccer games
his day to bring the snack
a variety pack
filled with all things crunchy and wonderful
he was really excited to share the treats
that his favorites would all be gone
i told him that it was important to offer them all
and then to eat whatever was left
he might be able to up the odds a little bit
by putting his favorites at the bottom of the box
that way he was more likely to have them left over
and he didn’t have to feel bad
because he had offered all of them to his team
if he was meant to have them
they would still be there
it was nice of him to have shared them
i watched as he thought it over
carefully put his ‘puffy cheetos’ on the bottom.
after the game he shared the snacks
and was delighted to see
his favorites were still there.
my daughter said that this was probably
the advice he would remember most from me
not to be kind, to be fair, or to take turns
to put your favorites in the bottom of the box,
offer them to your friends
cross your fingers
hope for the best.
nothing wrong with hoping for the best.
grandparents are there to help the child get into mischief
they haven’t thought of yet.
~ gene perret
a good friend and i
have decided to start
a local advice column
called, ‘trial & error.’
i’m trial, she’s error.
when people ask us what to do
our advice will mostly come
from a place of ‘what not to do,’
based upon personal experience.
perhaps someone will heed our advice,
though most likely they won’t.
how life is
how we learn.
image credits: trialanderrorrecordings, google images
out walking with the kinders
i come up behind
an unlikely pair
who generally aren’t together,
one who is learning to cope
with separating from a twin,
the other who is having a hard time coping
with separating from a best friend.
the only real separation
is that the friend/twin in each case
wants to seek out other friends
and expand their horizons.
one says to the other,
“i know she wants to play with other people
and when she needs to do that,
i just let her go.
i know it’s what she has to do
and then she comes back later.”
the other responds,
“wow. how do you do that?”
“it’s just what you do.”
i am amazed by
this four year-old’s insight and advice,
as many adults
still have not mastered this understanding.
the only thing to do with good advice is to pass it on.
it is never of any use to oneself.
– oscar wilde
image credit: google images