Category Archives: Life

cast aside.

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(not our real hands, but good for perspective)

mine is the tinkerbelle hand with a minor ‘injury’ and his, the paul bunyan hand with a major trauma.

 waiting in the store checkout line

browsing through my phone

  the man in front of me

laughing and chatting with the cashier

saying it was a challenge to sign the receipt

because of his hand

hearing this

turned to face him

  beginning to take in the situation

(major cast on his arm and hand)

while i quickly blurted out:

“it’s the worst, isn’t it?!”

 whining about having an injury too

he asked me what happened

explaining the battle with my car door

 he had a young daughter with him

 was so kind and gentle with her

laughing and chatting

just as he had done with the cashier

when i asked him what happened

wondering why he had such a big cast

he told me his story

it involved him trying to stop someone

from stealing his fiancee’s car

and

a dog attack

instant perspective shift

 before i could say anything

he turned to go

saying,

“i’m sorry that happened to you and i hope you heal really soon.”

all i could say was, “you too..”

  how fortunate the people in his life are

even the strangers he encounters in his day

 lucky to cross paths with him

this gentle giant

walks softly

teaching huge lessons.

“look at you comforting others with the words you want to hear.”

-author unknown

 

 

 

 

 

 

hope is a decision.

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hope tree, karin zeller

 

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buddhist philosopher daisaku ikeda wrote this insightful look at the nature of happiness in his essay collection, “Hope Is a Decision.” ikeda spent 50 years writing the essays in the book. they all relate in some form to the nature of hope, and how we can take it upon ourselves to maintain it, even during tumultuous times. consider it a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you choose to be hopeful, you will be. just like if you choose to try and make others happy, it will increase your own happiness. and, as ikeda also notes in his essay, those choices will “illuminate our final years with dignity.”

my grandson has a few words to say about being a good neighbor in this world.

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two hearts.

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yesterday

my sister let us know 

 she lost her husband

of so many years

on christmas day

in this

the same year

he lost his father

before too long

we’ll fly to her

to be together

for a remembrance and celebration of his life.

“sympathy is two hearts tugging at one load.”

-charles henry parkhurst

fun and games.

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 intense competitors at play in the action-packed shenanigans of

the get the diaper that is around your ankles moved to your bathing suit area without using your hands game

it just wouldn’t be our traditional christmas

without the crazy fun and games.

 

“life is more fun if you play games.”

  • roald dahl

life of the party.

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coco the dog

fully enjoyed the family and friends christmas eve party

and on this fine day would like to wish you all a merry christmas 

and

to all a good nap.

 

“christmas is the day that holds all time together.”

-alexander smith

when not everyone is not feeling as festive as you are.

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“being excited by stuff on a daily basis, i’m so excited by it.”

-taylor swift

another solstice comes to pass.

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“the grand show is eternal.

it is always sunrise somewhere; the dew is never all dried at once; a shower is forever falling; vapor is ever rising.

eternal sunrise, eternal sunset, eternal dawn and eternal glowing…

as the round earth rolls.”

-john muir

joyspotting.

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The Aesthetics of Joy”: Designer Explains 10 Ways Our Surroundings Can Positively Influence Emotions

courtesy of Ingrid Fetell Lee  – author, Rebekah Brandes

Walk into designer Ingrid Fetell Lee’s home in East Hampton, New York, and you may find yourself feeling lighter than you did a few minutes earlier. That’s because Lee has dedicated her career to exploring what she calls “the aesthetics of joy,” and her living space represents that work.

Lee first became interested in the emotions that certain colors, shapes, and other physical attributes evoke while earning her master’s in industrial design at the Pratt Institute — specifically, after presenting her first year-end review to faculty in 2008.

Sharing the story in a 2018 TED Talk, Lee describes hoping that the professors would recognize the effort she had put in to making her designs ergonomical, sustainable, and practical. “And I’m starting to get really nervous, because for a long time, no one says anything,” she recounted. “It’s just completely silent. And then one of the professors starts to speak, and he says, ‘Your work gives me a feeling of joy.’”

Surprised and a bit bewildered by the comment, Lee decided to investigate just why her work elicited the feeling of joy. She made the topic her thesis, spending an entire year studying it, and starting a blog to share her thoughts and findings. Nearly a decade later, she published Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness, and today, she teaches people how to adjust their environments to lead happier, healthier lives.

Lee’s research led her to identify 10 aesthetics of joy: energy, abundance, freedom, harmony, play, surprise, transcendence, magic, celebration, and renewal. Each is defined by a number of other attributes. Energy, for example, is derived from the use of color and light. In her book, Lee points out that research has shown that increasing exposure to sunlight is associated with reduced blood pressure and improved mood, alertness, and productivity.

Harmony as an aesthetic is represented by symmetry, flow, and a sense of order, while play incorporates circles, spheres, and bubbly forms. Abundance involves lush textures and layers; freedom comes from nature, wildness, and open spaces; and celebration incorporates synchrony, sparkle, and bursting shapes.

Different people connect to different aesthetics, and all 10 aren’t meant to be incorporated into one room or living space. “The aesthetics of joy are a lens for decor, but they’re also a lens for viewing the world,” Lee explained. “And what I think can be really helpful, before you even do anything in your home, is to start to practice.”

She recommends treating the aesthetics like a scavenger hunt as you go about your day-to-day, whether you’re walking around your neighborhood, staying in a hotel on vacation, or visiting a friend’s house.

“I call it ‘joyspotting’ You just start to notice what aesthetics are in a place,” she said, adding that when you find yourself somewhere that makes you feel good, you should try asking yourself why it does. “The first step is just starting to understand which aesthetics you find yourself gravitating toward over and over again. Is it the wide open spaces of freedom and the natural textures in the plants? Or is it a sense of abundance where you find yourself really drawn to layers and textures and different textiles and polka dots and a sense of sensory abundance?

The idea of  enotional design, or designing for emotions, can not only transform individual residences, but also public spaces, like schools, hospitals, and housing projects. Lee points out that for years, people have advocated for — and seen results from — changing how those types of environments look, but the science behind it was formerly scattered across various disciplines. Her book compiles much of that research into one guide.

“I think it was helpful to have a body of research for the first time that demonstrates that this is real and meaningful and valuable,” she said. Though the idea hasn’t been totally embraced by the mainstream yet, it may have the potential to positively inform public policy in the future.

“find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.

for to miss the  joy is to miss all.”

-robert lewis stevenson

maunder.

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i’ve been a happy maunderer since the beginning
babbling long strings of sounds and crawling around in an idle manner
 now using full run-on sentences leading to tangents
and dreamily getting lost while moving most anywhere
just didn’t have the word for it before.
maunder

[MAWN-dər]

part of speech: verb

origin: unknown, early 17th century

1.talk in a rambling manner.

2.move or act in a dreamy or idle manner.

examples of maunder in a sentence:

“don’t get beth started on her favorite movies, or she will maunder forever.”

“the blooming trees inspired me to maunder all afternoon in the woods.”

 

 

 

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