Category Archives: Life

when not everyone is not feeling as festive as you are.

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“being excited by stuff on a daily basis, i’m so excited by it.”

-taylor swift

another solstice comes to pass.

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“the grand show is eternal.

it is always sunrise somewhere; the dew is never all dried at once; a shower is forever falling; vapor is ever rising.

eternal sunrise, eternal sunset, eternal dawn and eternal glowing…

as the round earth rolls.”

-john muir

joyspotting.

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The Aesthetics of Joy”: Designer Explains 10 Ways Our Surroundings Can Positively Influence Emotions

courtesy of Ingrid Fetell Lee  – author, Rebekah Brandes

Walk into designer Ingrid Fetell Lee’s home in East Hampton, New York, and you may find yourself feeling lighter than you did a few minutes earlier. That’s because Lee has dedicated her career to exploring what she calls “the aesthetics of joy,” and her living space represents that work.

Lee first became interested in the emotions that certain colors, shapes, and other physical attributes evoke while earning her master’s in industrial design at the Pratt Institute — specifically, after presenting her first year-end review to faculty in 2008.

Sharing the story in a 2018 TED Talk, Lee describes hoping that the professors would recognize the effort she had put in to making her designs ergonomical, sustainable, and practical. “And I’m starting to get really nervous, because for a long time, no one says anything,” she recounted. “It’s just completely silent. And then one of the professors starts to speak, and he says, ‘Your work gives me a feeling of joy.’”

Surprised and a bit bewildered by the comment, Lee decided to investigate just why her work elicited the feeling of joy. She made the topic her thesis, spending an entire year studying it, and starting a blog to share her thoughts and findings. Nearly a decade later, she published Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness, and today, she teaches people how to adjust their environments to lead happier, healthier lives.

Lee’s research led her to identify 10 aesthetics of joy: energy, abundance, freedom, harmony, play, surprise, transcendence, magic, celebration, and renewal. Each is defined by a number of other attributes. Energy, for example, is derived from the use of color and light. In her book, Lee points out that research has shown that increasing exposure to sunlight is associated with reduced blood pressure and improved mood, alertness, and productivity.

Harmony as an aesthetic is represented by symmetry, flow, and a sense of order, while play incorporates circles, spheres, and bubbly forms. Abundance involves lush textures and layers; freedom comes from nature, wildness, and open spaces; and celebration incorporates synchrony, sparkle, and bursting shapes.

Different people connect to different aesthetics, and all 10 aren’t meant to be incorporated into one room or living space. “The aesthetics of joy are a lens for decor, but they’re also a lens for viewing the world,” Lee explained. “And what I think can be really helpful, before you even do anything in your home, is to start to practice.”

She recommends treating the aesthetics like a scavenger hunt as you go about your day-to-day, whether you’re walking around your neighborhood, staying in a hotel on vacation, or visiting a friend’s house.

“I call it ‘joyspotting’ You just start to notice what aesthetics are in a place,” she said, adding that when you find yourself somewhere that makes you feel good, you should try asking yourself why it does. “The first step is just starting to understand which aesthetics you find yourself gravitating toward over and over again. Is it the wide open spaces of freedom and the natural textures in the plants? Or is it a sense of abundance where you find yourself really drawn to layers and textures and different textiles and polka dots and a sense of sensory abundance?

The idea of  enotional design, or designing for emotions, can not only transform individual residences, but also public spaces, like schools, hospitals, and housing projects. Lee points out that for years, people have advocated for — and seen results from — changing how those types of environments look, but the science behind it was formerly scattered across various disciplines. Her book compiles much of that research into one guide.

“I think it was helpful to have a body of research for the first time that demonstrates that this is real and meaningful and valuable,” she said. Though the idea hasn’t been totally embraced by the mainstream yet, it may have the potential to positively inform public policy in the future.

“find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.

for to miss the  joy is to miss all.”

-robert lewis stevenson

maunder.

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i’ve been a happy maunderer since the beginning
babbling long strings of sounds and crawling around in an idle manner
 now using full run-on sentences leading to tangents
and dreamily getting lost while moving most anywhere
just didn’t have the word for it before.
maunder

[MAWN-dər]

part of speech: verb

origin: unknown, early 17th century

1.talk in a rambling manner.

2.move or act in a dreamy or idle manner.

examples of maunder in a sentence:

“don’t get beth started on her favorite movies, or she will maunder forever.”

“the blooming trees inspired me to maunder all afternoon in the woods.”

 

 

 

image credit: freepik

sequence.

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it all began well and dandy

our school ny eve party was in the early minutes

changing out of my holiday llama pajamas

to head out for my annual doc checkup

zooming out and headed that way

until i wasn’t

when a road construction issue came into play

so i turned  up the music

waited it out

zoomed off again

finally got there

just a few minutes late

jumped out of the car

opened the back door to get something out

while also somehow slamming the front door shut

quickly felt something unexpected

ah, it was my finger closed in the front door

the wrong place to be

after i stared at it for a minute

i reopened the door, moved my hand, locked in back up

and headed in

noticing that it hurt and was beginning to change color

nurse took me right away

 he used to be a paramedic

while checking my vitals

i mentioned my finger

ah, they’ll probably be splinting it

my doc comes in

does my wellness interview and exam

all  good

i mention the finger

she sends me for an x-ray across the hall

when i come back

she suggests i get a flu shot while waiting

mentions that the receptionist

said i wanted to set up a covid booster shot

why not get it while i’m here?

paramedic nurse guy comes back

gives me both shots

says again that they’ll probably be splinting my finger

doc comes back in

says the x-ray shows

i fractured my finger

and it’s going to need a splint

paramedic nurse gives me a nod and smile

set up appointment for another x-ray in a week

 return to office in two weeks to see how it’s healing

doc calls me at home later

she reminds me

elevate, ice, motrin, splint

here i thought i was done for the year

how did this take such a turn?

sequences of events are always so fascinating when looking back.

“and now the sequence of events in no particular order.”

-dan rather, american newscaster

 

image credit: anne cevardi, osborn books

lucky break.

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“let a joy keep you. reach out your hands and take it when it runs by.”

-carl sandburg

cccccccccold.

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very cold scene from ‘the shining.’ (warner brothers)

does anyone else watch movies set in the snow and became freezing just watching them?

it all starts out well enough

 suddenly dawning on me

the characters

have spent much of the movie in the freezing snow.

 once i realize this, there is no  going back,

it begins to feel so very cold.

consider this a warning or cautionary tale.

below are some i’ve sen over the years,

any to add to the list?

white fang

frozen

fargo

dr. zhivago

on her majesty’s secret service

white out

groundhog day

the revanent

jeremiah johnson

home alone

the snow walker

shackleton

snow day

the thing

vertical limit

society of the snow

“life is cold. people stay warm through the intimacy of a story.”

-james altucher

 

white elephant.

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white elephant action shot

(not meant to be artsy, more of a testament to my photographic skill level)

 

enjoyed a holiday party with friends

food, drink, chatter, and fun

 white elephant game is always a hilarious part of this event

each and every game is different

and this year certainly did not disappoint!

many people participate in secret santa gift exchanges. but others like to take things a step further and plan a white elephant swap. if you aren’t familiar, white elephant is a game in which everyone brings a wrapped present, places it in a pile and draws a number to determine the order in which the participants will select gifts to unwrap. as the game progresses, people have the option to unwrap a new gift or “steal” a previously opened present.

the game can get pretty heated, so naturally it offers a lot of opportunities for twitter humor. see today’s quotes below – a sampling of tweets about this very exciting game –

A white elephant gift exchange is a great way to secretly resent someone for swiping the dollar store bath bomb you didn’t think you wanted until you were stuck with the dollar store candle.
Teen came home wearing a fluorescent alligator around her neck she won from a white elephant exchange. She’s shocked no one else wanted it.
Every time I play White Elephant, I always say I’m not gonna get too intense. But 10 minutes in, I’m already yelling at people I’ve never met. Then by the end, I’m chasing Nikita down the block, in the pouring rain, for a pair of sunglasses. I need help.
You don’t know hysteria until you’ve played White Elephant with 10 girls under 13 and a One Direction toothbrush gets in the game.

control.

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when having snow tires put on my car

had an early appointment

brought my laptop and a giant coffee

to settle in for an hour and a half or so.

while waiting

i planned to write and read and catch up on things

knowing there is always something going on

with any group of fellow ‘waiters.’

i sat at a high table to make for easy typing

 most everyone else sat in the lower, more comfortable chairs

quite soon after my arrival, the ambiance changed.

on the left side in front of me

a woman sat down

in the seat next to the remote control for the tv

meant to help the time pass, amuse, and distract everyone.

she immediately took control of the controller

switching whatever channel had been on

to fox news.

the woman in the family to my right

politely asked if she would mind changing

the channel from fox to something else.

she said yes and all good

in no time

we were all watching baywatch reruns

in high def, on the big screen, 90s music pumping

those red bathing suited beauties

running on the beach, boating, emoting, doing pull-ups, rescues, looking hot, and whatnot

and david hasselhoff, the hoff.

the workers at the tire store desk were mesmerized

some young enough to never have seen it before

some old enough to have had the poster and remembering.

i refilled my coffee

 the channel was not changed again

throughout my entire (now 2 hour), wait.

new customers coming in had mixed reactions

what an early holiday surprise!

“of all men’s miseries the bitterest is this: to know so much and to have control over nothing.”

-herodotus

pathway.

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the kinder discovered a pathway on a hill

covered in beautiful, kind, and encouraging stones

created by the older children

left behind for them to find

“what sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity.

these are but trifles, to be sure;

but scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.”

-joseph addision