“being excited by stuff on a daily basis, i’m so excited by it.”
-taylor swift
“being excited by stuff on a daily basis, i’m so excited by it.”
-taylor swift

Walk into designer Ingrid Fetell Lee’s home in East Hampton, New York, and you may find yourself feeling lighter than you did a few minutes earlier. That’s because Lee has dedicated her career to exploring what she calls “the aesthetics of joy,” and her living space represents that work.
Lee first became interested in the emotions that certain colors, shapes, and other physical attributes evoke while earning her master’s in industrial design at the Pratt Institute — specifically, after presenting her first year-end review to faculty in 2008.
Sharing the story in a 2018 TED Talk, Lee describes hoping that the professors would recognize the effort she had put in to making her designs ergonomical, sustainable, and practical. “And I’m starting to get really nervous, because for a long time, no one says anything,” she recounted. “It’s just completely silent. And then one of the professors starts to speak, and he says, ‘Your work gives me a feeling of joy.’”
Surprised and a bit bewildered by the comment, Lee decided to investigate just why her work elicited the feeling of joy. She made the topic her thesis, spending an entire year studying it, and starting a blog to share her thoughts and findings. Nearly a decade later, she published Joyful: The Surprising Power of Ordinary Things to Create Extraordinary Happiness, and today, she teaches people how to adjust their environments to lead happier, healthier lives.
Lee’s research led her to identify 10 aesthetics of joy: energy, abundance, freedom, harmony, play, surprise, transcendence, magic, celebration, and renewal. Each is defined by a number of other attributes. Energy, for example, is derived from the use of color and light. In her book, Lee points out that research has shown that increasing exposure to sunlight is associated with reduced blood pressure and improved mood, alertness, and productivity.
Harmony as an aesthetic is represented by symmetry, flow, and a sense of order, while play incorporates circles, spheres, and bubbly forms. Abundance involves lush textures and layers; freedom comes from nature, wildness, and open spaces; and celebration incorporates synchrony, sparkle, and bursting shapes.
Different people connect to different aesthetics, and all 10 aren’t meant to be incorporated into one room or living space. “The aesthetics of joy are a lens for decor, but they’re also a lens for viewing the world,” Lee explained. “And what I think can be really helpful, before you even do anything in your home, is to start to practice.”
She recommends treating the aesthetics like a scavenger hunt as you go about your day-to-day, whether you’re walking around your neighborhood, staying in a hotel on vacation, or visiting a friend’s house.
“I call it ‘joyspotting’ You just start to notice what aesthetics are in a place,” she said, adding that when you find yourself somewhere that makes you feel good, you should try asking yourself why it does. “The first step is just starting to understand which aesthetics you find yourself gravitating toward over and over again. Is it the wide open spaces of freedom and the natural textures in the plants? Or is it a sense of abundance where you find yourself really drawn to layers and textures and different textiles and polka dots and a sense of sensory abundance?
The idea of enotional design, or designing for emotions, can not only transform individual residences, but also public spaces, like schools, hospitals, and housing projects. Lee points out that for years, people have advocated for — and seen results from — changing how those types of environments look, but the science behind it was formerly scattered across various disciplines. Her book compiles much of that research into one guide.
“I think it was helpful to have a body of research for the first time that demonstrates that this is real and meaningful and valuable,” she said. Though the idea hasn’t been totally embraced by the mainstream yet, it may have the potential to positively inform public policy in the future.
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“find out where joy resides, and give it a voice far beyond singing.
for to miss the joy is to miss all.”
-robert lewis stevenson
[MAWN-dər]
part of speech: verb
origin: unknown, early 17th century
1.talk in a rambling manner.
2.move or act in a dreamy or idle manner.
“don’t get beth started on her favorite movies, or she will maunder forever.”
“the blooming trees inspired me to maunder all afternoon in the woods.”
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image credit: freepik
it all began well and dandy
our school ny eve party was in the early minutes
changing out of my holiday llama pajamas
to head out for my annual doc checkup
zooming out and headed that way
until i wasn’t
when a road construction issue came into play
so i turned up the music
waited it out
zoomed off again
finally got there
just a few minutes late
jumped out of the car
opened the back door to get something out
while also somehow slamming the front door shut
quickly felt something unexpected
ah, it was my finger closed in the front door
the wrong place to be
after i stared at it for a minute
i reopened the door, moved my hand, locked in back up
and headed in
noticing that it hurt and was beginning to change color
nurse took me right away
he used to be a paramedic
while checking my vitals
i mentioned my finger
ah, they’ll probably be splinting it
my doc comes in
does my wellness interview and exam
all good
i mention the finger
she sends me for an x-ray across the hall
when i come back
she suggests i get a flu shot while waiting
mentions that the receptionist
said i wanted to set up a covid booster shot
why not get it while i’m here?
paramedic nurse guy comes back
gives me both shots
says again that they’ll probably be splinting my finger
doc comes back in
says the x-ray shows
i fractured my finger
and it’s going to need a splint
paramedic nurse gives me a nod and smile
set up appointment for another x-ray in a week
return to office in two weeks to see how it’s healing
doc calls me at home later
she reminds me
elevate, ice, motrin, splint
here i thought i was done for the year
how did this take such a turn?
sequences of events are always so fascinating when looking back.
“and now the sequence of events in no particular order.”
-dan rather, american newscaster
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image credit: anne cevardi, osborn books
very cold scene from ‘the shining.’ (warner brothers)
does anyone else watch movies set in the snow and became freezing just watching them?
it all starts out well enough
suddenly dawning on me
the characters
have spent much of the movie in the freezing snow.
once i realize this, there is no going back,
it begins to feel so very cold.
consider this a warning or cautionary tale.
below are some i’ve sen over the years,
any to add to the list?
white fang
frozen
fargo
dr. zhivago
on her majesty’s secret service
white out
groundhog day
the revanent
jeremiah johnson
home alone
the snow walker
shackleton
snow day
the thing
vertical limit
society of the snow
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“life is cold. people stay warm through the intimacy of a story.”
-james altucher
white elephant action shot
(not meant to be artsy, more of a testament to my photographic skill level)
enjoyed a holiday party with friends
food, drink, chatter, and fun
white elephant game is always a hilarious part of this event
each and every game is different
and this year certainly did not disappoint!
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many people participate in secret santa gift exchanges. but others like to take things a step further and plan a white elephant swap. if you aren’t familiar, white elephant is a game in which everyone brings a wrapped present, places it in a pile and draws a number to determine the order in which the participants will select gifts to unwrap. as the game progresses, people have the option to unwrap a new gift or “steal” a previously opened present.
the game can get pretty heated, so naturally it offers a lot of opportunities for twitter humor. see today’s quotes below – a sampling of tweets about this very exciting game –
when having snow tires put on my car
had an early appointment
brought my laptop and a giant coffee
to settle in for an hour and a half or so.
while waiting
i planned to write and read and catch up on things
knowing there is always something going on
with any group of fellow ‘waiters.’
i sat at a high table to make for easy typing
most everyone else sat in the lower, more comfortable chairs
quite soon after my arrival, the ambiance changed.
on the left side in front of me
a woman sat down
in the seat next to the remote control for the tv
meant to help the time pass, amuse, and distract everyone.
she immediately took control of the controller
switching whatever channel had been on
to fox news.
the woman in the family to my right
politely asked if she would mind changing
the channel from fox to something else.
she said yes and all good
in no time
we were all watching baywatch reruns
in high def, on the big screen, 90s music pumping
those red bathing suited beauties
running on the beach, boating, emoting, doing pull-ups, rescues, looking hot, and whatnot
and david hasselhoff, the hoff.
the workers at the tire store desk were mesmerized
some young enough to never have seen it before
some old enough to have had the poster and remembering.
i refilled my coffee
the channel was not changed again
throughout my entire (now 2 hour), wait.
new customers coming in had mixed reactions
what an early holiday surprise!
“of all men’s miseries the bitterest is this: to know so much and to have control over nothing.”
-herodotus
the kinder discovered a pathway on a hill
covered in beautiful, kind, and encouraging stones
created by the older children
left behind for them to find
“what sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity.
these are but trifles, to be sure;
but scattered along life’s pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.”
-joseph addision