two wonderful things
in a way
they weren’t meant to
sometimes you get this
your computer
doesn’t
work quite right
and you hope
for a miraculous
apple recovery
7 Overlooked Thanksgiving Rituals,
According to Sociologists
The first major sociological study of Thanksgiving appeared in the Journal of Consumer Research in 1991. The authors conducted in-depth interviews with people about their experiences of the holiday.
They also had 100 students take detailed fieldnotes on their Thanksgiving celebrations, supplemented by photographs. The data analysis revealed some common events in the fieldnotes that people rarely remarked on in the interviews. Here are some Thanksgiving rituals you might not realize are rituals:
1. THE GIVING OF THE JOB ADVICE
Teenagers are given a ritual status shift to the adult part of the family, not only through the move from the kids’ table to the grownup table, but also through the career counseling spontaneously offered by aunts, uncles, and anyone else with wisdom to share.
2. THE FORGETTING OF THE INGREDIENT
Oh no! I forgot to put the evaporated milk in the pumpkin pie! As the authors of the Thanksgiving study state, “since there is no written liturgy to insure exact replication each year, sometimes things are forgotten.” In the ritual pattern, the forgetting is followed by lamentation, reassurance, acceptance, and the restoration of comfortable stability. It reinforces the themes of abundance (we’ve got plenty even if not everything works out) and family togetherness (we can overcome obstacles).
3. THE TELLING OF DISASTER STORIES OF THANKSGIVINGS PAST
Remember that time we cooked a green bean casserole and burned the house down? Another way to reinforce the theme of family togetherness is to retell the stories of things that have gone wrong at Thanksgiving and then laugh about them. This ritual can turn ugly, however, if not everyone has gotten to the point where they find the disaster stories funny.
4. THE REAPPROPRIATION OF THE STORE-BOUGHT ITEMS
Transfer a store-bought pie crust to a bigger pan, filling out the extra space with pieces of another store-bought pie crust, and it’s not quite so pre-manufactured anymore. Put pineapple chunks in the Jello, and it becomes something done “our way.” The theme of the importance of the “homemade” emerges in the ritual of slightly changing the convenience foods to make them less convenient.
5. THE PET’S MEAL
The pet is fed special food while everyone looks on and takes photos. This ritual enacts the theme of inclusion also involved in the inviting of those with “nowhere else to go.”
6. THE PUTTING AWAY OF THE LEFTOVERS
In some cultures, feasts are followed by a ritual destruction of the surplus. At Thanksgiving the Puritan value of frugality is embodied in the wrapping and packing up of all the leftovers.
7. THE WALKING
After the eating and the groaning and the belly patting, someone will suggest a walk and a group will form to take a stroll. Sometimes the walkers will simply do laps around the house, but they often head out into the world to get some air. There is usually no destination involved, just a desire to move and feel the satisfied quietness of abundance – and to make some room for dessert.
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credits: mental floss magazine, the graphics fairy
i’m not quite sure how, but i’m quite sure it somehow happened.
in the end, that turtle’s (or terrapin, as some prefer), hard shell refused to let a wolverine break through, and hung on for the victory in our recent matchup here in my very own hometown of ann arbor.

as promised in my wager with fellow blogger, a man who writes about sports and entertainment, rival and friend, mark b. – here is the fight song of the winner in the battle between my michigan wolverines and his maryland terrapins. you may not recognize me as the singer, but i like to surprise, just like those terrapins. what say you, mark b.?
here is the link to mark b’s always entertaining blog, even when he has won and is gloating…
and congrats to you and your turtles, mark. well-played.
University of Maryland
Fight Song
Fight, fight, fight for Maryland,
Honor now Her name again,
Push up the score, keep on fighting for more,
For Maryland, GO TERPS!
And we will fight, fight, fight for terrapins,
Keep on fighting ’till we win.
So sing out our song as we go marching along,
To victory!!!
—
Words and music by Ralph Davis, Class of 1941
copyright 1941
by the University of Maryland Student Government Association
the email came
guess-timating
how many miles
i had on my car
they were spot on
within 200 miles
inviting me in
for an oil change
a winterizing
a check up
asking
would you like coffee
will you need wi-fi
a ride home
a loaner
or
spend time here with us
while we
pamper your car
and you
and
i was half expecting
a massage
a mani/pedi
i took
the earliest appointment
on my day off
with plans
to head off
to do all the things
i’d been wanting to do
i drove up
and
the door opened for my car
welcoming me in
to the dealership
with a warm embrace
and they asked what they could do
took me to the comforting area to wait
gave me coffee
and
wi-fi
and
cable
and
magazines
and
cushiony chairs
and
the company of just one other
pampered customer
a man of about my age
and we each
went about our morning
waiting in comfort
until
they realized
his car
was going to take too long
so he took a rental
and
headed out
half an hour
later
the service advisor
came
knelt down by my chair
i felt
there was possibly
a bit of bad news coming
she
whispered
i don’t know how this happened
i looked at her
as she said
that man
who was sitting here with you
has just left with your keys
we don’t know why
this has never happened
ever
in the history
of our dealership
and
we can’t
get ahold of him
i’m so sorry
we’re not sure
why he’d take your keys
since he was taking a rental
even if
he thought those were his keys
we’d need them to work on his car
that he left behind
we just can’t understand it
we apologize
we can drive you
all of the places you need to go
or
give you a loaner
and
when we get your keys back
we will
we’ll deliver your car
with your keys
to your house
or
you can wait a bit
and
see what happens
with more coffee
i chose
the waiting option
and
i do enjoy my subaru family
but really didn’t want to
spend the whole day with them
doing errands
having lunch
and
i wanted to see
what would happen
why
he was not answering
his phone
his email
the texts
i wanted
to know
his story
i imagined him
working out with at my gym
using the id on my keys
then at my house
dancing with nacho the cat and his cat friends
and
drinking a glass of my pinot noir
reading my magazines
listening to my music
while taking a bubble bath
in my tub
and
they came in again
said they still
couldn’t reach him
do you want to wait
with
more coffee
more comfort
a while later
he called
said he had no idea
why he took the keys
and
he didn’t
want to see me
but
apologized profusely
and
came back
and
they pulled up my car at last
washed
all free service
apologies
thank you’s
for
being understanding
no explanation
and
the wish for a good day
and i was off
once again
wondering
would the tub be drained
when i finally got home?

—
one cannot plan for the unexpected.
– aaron klug
—
images courtesy of: google images
i have always been a fan of true crime, and unsolved mysteries in particular. while i have no desire to be a part of any criminal activity, (and openly admit to occasionally absconding with an extra fine chocolate or two from a hotel lobby), i have always been fascinated by the criminal mind and the planning and execution of their crimes. i love putting the puzzle pieces all together, the wild goose chase, the wrong turns, and the process of finally solving a case. today is the anniversary of the day in 1971, when one of my favorite cases ever took place, and one that remains unsolved to this day: the d.b. cooper case.
D.B. Cooper: Everything you need to know in 20 sentences and 5 minutes of your time.
One afternoon a day before Thanksgiving in 1971, a guy calling himself Dan Cooper (the media mistakenly called him D.B. Cooper) boarded Northwest Airlines flight #305 in Portland bound for Seattle. He was wearing a dark suit and a black tie and was described as a business-executive type. While in the air, he opened his brief case showing a bomb to the flight attendant and hijacked the plane. The plane landed in Seattle where he demanded 200K in cash, four parachutes and food for the crew before releasing all the passengers. With only three pilots and one flight attendant left on board, they took off from Seattle with the marked bills heading south while it was dark and lightly raining. In the 45 minutes after takeoff, Cooper sent the flight attendant to the cockpit while donning the parachute, tied the bank bag full of twenty dollar bills to himself, lowered the rear stairs and somewhere north of Portland jumped into the night. When the plane landed with the stairs down, they found the two remaining parachutes and on the seat Cooper was sitting in, a black tie.
Jets, a helicopter and a C-130 aircraft had been scrambled from the closest air force base to follow Cooper’s plane. The military was called in days after the hijacking and approximately 1,000 troops searched the suspected jump zone on foot and in helicopters. The Boeing 727 used in the hijacking was flown out over the ocean and the stairs lowered and weights dropped in an attempt to determine when Cooper jumped. The SR-71 super-secret spy plane was sent in to photograph the entire flight path but no sign of D.B. Cooper was ever discovered.
Nine years later in 1980 just north of Portland on the Columbia River, a young boy named Brian Ingram was digging a fire pit in the sand at a place called Tena Bar. He uncovered three bundles of cash a couple inches below the surface, with rubber bands still intact. There was a total of $5800, the Cooper serial numbers matched, and the first evidence since 1971 came to light. The FBI searched and analyzed the beach, the river was dredged by Cooper Hunters and the theories on how the money got there supercharged the Legend of D.B. Cooper.
Decades passed, D.B. Cooper became famous in book, movie and song. In 2007, Special Agent Larry Carr took on his favorite case with the restriction not to waste government time or money pursuing it. Agent Carr brilliantly decided the way around the problem was to treat the hijacking like one of his bank robbery cases – to get as much information out to the public as possible. He released previously unknown facts about the case and the D.B. Cooper frenzy started anew.
In 2008 the Cooper Research Team came together to take up the challenge and was given special access to investigate the case. This website is the result of that three year investigation.
The Public Debates:
The D.B. Cooper case continues to be debated in forums and chat rooms around the world. Most of the conversation (and arguments) center around a few ideas outlined below. The ‘Debate Factor’ is the level of interest for that theory among Cooper followers.
Did Cooper die in the jump? It is a huge public debate if Cooper died in the jump or not. Experienced skydivers say he would have died if it was his first jump but if he was an expert, no problem. One experience parachutist believed that anyone who had six or seven practice jumps could accomplished the jump. The cold weather may or may not have killed him in the woods even if he landed ok. No body or parachute was ever found. Debate factor* = 9 of 10
Was Cooper an experienced skydiver? He requested “front and back parachutes” = novice. He turned down instructions on how to use the parachute = experienced. He picked the non-steerable military parachute = novice. The military chute could better withstand the exit speed of the plane = experienced. He put the parachute on like he knew what he was doing = experienced. He took the reserve chute that was sewn closed and non-functional = novice. Debate factor = 7 of 10
The Tena Bar money find is problematic because it is 20 miles away from the town of Ariel, Washington where the drop zone analysis completed in 1971 said he jumped. In order to get the money on to Tena Bar, several theories are in play. First is the Washougal Washdown Theory, based on the idea that the money had to wash first down smaller rivers, then into the Columbia River in order to end up on Tena Bar. Second is that the FBI flight path was incorrect and Cooper actually landed on Tena Bar and buried the money. Third is that Cooper or someone else buried the money on Tena Bar to throw off the FBI. Debate factor = 10 of 10
The “Palmer Report” stemmed from the FBI bringing in Portland State University geologist Dr. Leonard Palmer to analyze the sand bar where the money was found. In between the 1971 hijacking and the 1980 money find, the Columbia River was dredged and sand was deposited on Tena Bar in 1974. Palmer’s report determined that the money was in a layer of top sand laid down by the dredging. This implied that the money was somewhere else upstream for years before coming to rest on Tena Bar. The counterpoint was that the delicate rubber bands were still intact on the bundles when found. The bands pointed to an earlier time frame for the money coming to rest on Tena. Debate factor = 9 of 10
Where was the real flight path? The flight path map in the FBI archive has no information on who drew the flight path or when it was created. The flight path as drawn is thought to be from the detailed analysis of radar data and flight recorder discussed in the FBI transcripts. The FBI path does NOT fly over Tena Bar or the Washougal area. The money found on Tena Bar forces the flight path debate because it would be much easier to explain the money find if Cooper flew over Tena Bar and jumped, or flight #305 flew over the Washougal River and Cooper’s ransom money ended up washing down stream. Debate factor = 7 of 10
How did three loose bundles of money stay together for years and then get buried together? Several possibilities have been put forth. The bank bag protected them for years in the river and then rotted away before the bills did. Cooper lost the money when he landed on Tena Bar in the dark. Someone else buried the money there. Debate factor = 5 of 10
Was Cooper from the area? He recognized Tacoma from the air = local. He would be an idiot to hijack an airplane where he could possibly be recognized = not local. He made the very unusual request for “negotiable American currency” unlike most Americans = not from this country. Debate factor = 3 of 10
How did the money degrade around the edges and get holes in them? Roots, tumbling downstream, dredging? Debate factor = 3 of 10
Are any of the current crop of suspects the real D.B. Cooper? Debate factor = 13+ of 10
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source: fbi archives
if you see mt. fuji, a hawk, and an eggplant on new year’s day,
you will be forever blessed.
-japanese proverb
or
if you go
to your middle daughter’s house
(one of the infamous h’s)
for coffee
and see a
beautiful and wounded
black hawk
walking around the back yard
and it turns into
a
rescue adventure
and the
emergency animal squad
shows up
within minutes
to help save him
and
restore him to good health
then your new proverb would be
‘if you see a pond, a hawk with a broken wing and a cappucino
on a random sunday,
you will be forever blessed.’
and then
you will have your coffee
and wonder
if that just really happened
—
image credit: coyotehills.com
this was lj’s response
as i broke the news
that i’d saved him
a birthday treat
his classmate
had brought in
the day before
when he had been absent
i’m sure
he imagined
a
wonderful treat
such as this
giant cupcake
as big as his head
all gooey chocolate
and rainbow sprinkles
and wonderful goodness
so
he closed his eyes tight
in giddy anticipation
and waited
and then
i came back
with this
beige
healthy
granola bar
treat
gluten
wheat
sugar
dairy
nut
taste
free
this was lj’s response
as soon as he saw it
and
took it all in
and
his eyes
got big
and
started
to
fill with water
and
his head
went down
and
it was
the letdown
of the century
—
food should be fun.
– thomas keller
—
all pics courtesy of google images