Tag Archives: family

the best way to have a good idea is to have a lot of ideas. – linus pauling

Standard

imagelet the kids play and get a massage at the same time.

brilliant.

—–

image credit: etsy.com

happy thanksgiving: rituals, relatives and rolls.

Standard

Vintage-Thanksgiving-Card-GraphicsFairy

7 Overlooked Thanksgiving Rituals,

According to Sociologists

The first major sociological study of Thanksgiving appeared in the Journal of Consumer Research in 1991. The authors conducted in-depth interviews with people about their experiences of the holiday.

They also had 100 students take detailed fieldnotes on their Thanksgiving celebrations, supplemented by photographs. The data analysis revealed some common events in the fieldnotes that people rarely remarked on in the interviews. Here are some Thanksgiving rituals you might not realize are rituals:

1. THE GIVING OF THE JOB ADVICE
Teenagers are given a ritual status shift to the adult part of the family, not only through the move from the kids’ table to the grownup table, but also through the career counseling spontaneously offered by aunts, uncles, and anyone else with wisdom to share.

2. THE FORGETTING OF THE INGREDIENT
Oh no! I forgot to put the evaporated milk in the pumpkin pie! As the authors of the Thanksgiving study state, “since there is no written liturgy to insure exact replication each year, sometimes things are forgotten.” In the ritual pattern, the forgetting is followed by lamentation, reassurance, acceptance, and the restoration of comfortable stability. It reinforces the themes of abundance (we’ve got plenty even if not everything works out) and family togetherness (we can overcome obstacles).

3. THE TELLING OF DISASTER STORIES OF THANKSGIVINGS PAST
Remember that time we cooked a green bean casserole and burned the house down? Another way to reinforce the theme of family togetherness is to retell the stories of things that have gone wrong at Thanksgiving and then laugh about them. This ritual can turn ugly, however, if not everyone has gotten to the point where they find the disaster stories funny.

4. THE REAPPROPRIATION OF THE STORE-BOUGHT ITEMS
Transfer a store-bought pie crust to a bigger pan, filling out the extra space with pieces of another store-bought pie crust, and it’s not quite so pre-manufactured anymore. Put pineapple chunks in the Jello, and it becomes something done “our way.” The theme of the importance of the “homemade” emerges in the ritual of slightly changing the convenience foods to make them less convenient.

5. THE PET’S MEAL
The pet is fed special food while everyone looks on and takes photos. This ritual enacts the theme of inclusion also involved in the inviting of those with “nowhere else to go.”

6. THE PUTTING AWAY OF THE LEFTOVERS
In some cultures, feasts are followed by a ritual destruction of the surplus. At Thanksgiving the Puritan value of frugality is embodied in the wrapping and packing up of all the leftovers.

7. THE WALKING
After the eating and the groaning and the belly patting, someone will suggest a walk and a group will form to take a stroll. Sometimes the walkers will simply do laps around the house, but they often head out into the world to get some air. There is usually no destination involved, just a desire to move and feel the satisfied quietness of abundance – and to make some room for dessert.

credits: mental floss magazine, the graphics fairy

h3-oh!

Standard

pinteres.com

 having

 named

all of

my

3 daughters

all close in age

with

names

that

all begin

with the letter

h

has caused

me to

rarely

if ever

call them

 by their

proper name

at least

on

the first

or

the second

try

and

they’ve

all learned

over time

to just

answer

to

any of them

and

when they

all sign their cards

to me

love

your favorite daughter, h

i know i’ve done it right

one thing they never tell you about child raising is that for the rest of your life, at the drop of a hat, you are expected to know your child’s name and how old he or she is.

– erma bombeck

image credit: pinterest.com

one second.

Standard

10339672_10152463305333297_3539367819384072910_n

10592718_508372695965238_7335503649765089749_n

today is the day

one of the little guys

in our family

vanished

way too early

and

another little guy

appeared

just a few years later

on the very same day

to join our family

happy birthday

to one

and

i miss you

to the other

and

i

will always

love

 both of you

image credit: faerie magazine

how many can i be?

Standard

d13e8446682c15ce5fc770a76561aab6

little guy in my class

whispering

excitedly

about

all of the things

he wants to become

chef

make delicious food

ballet dancer

the ballerinas are so beautiful

i want to marry them

artist

make pretty things

movie maker

monsters, aliens, bugs

discoverer

find things

traveler

see the whole world

inventor

make up new things

storyteller

tell stories to people

musician

make songs

but

how many can i be?

and

there is something

that i really, really

 need to be the most

i need to be a dad

i have to be a dad for my daddy

because

 he doesn’t have one

anymore

his daddy

my poppy

died

and

i think i’ll be

his daddy

he needs a daddy

gettyimages.com


the great man is he who does not lose his child’s-heart.  ~mencius

image credits: dailymail.co.uk, getty images

you don’t need a silver fork to eat good food. – paul prudhomme

Standard

IMG_1723

eating dinner out with baby j

is always

a culinary adventure

of

the highest order

part of the meal

is often spent

below the table

and then

the appearance

of a tiny, pudgy hand

reminds me

of why

we are here

sharing

our food

and

our space.

“children are the living messages we send to a time we will not see.” – john w. whitehead

Standard

10672233_10152844931981694_189749389040454942_n

first sleepover

at peaches’ cottage

for

babies b and j

and

we are

making

shadow puppets

on the wall

and

there is

a

feeling

of

magical electricity

in the air

deep meaning lies often in childish play. ~johann friedrich von schiller



a sister is both your mirror – and your opposite. – e. fishel

Standard

IMG_0315

beth and pam

sisters

room mates

best friends

suddenly

one

was gone

way too early

and

one

was left behind

way too early

and

still

missing the other

on her birthday

in french you don’t really say, “i miss you.”

you say, “tu me manques,” which is closer to

“you are missing from me.”

i love that.

“you are missing from me.”

you are a part of me.

yes, that is it.

– author unknown

spending the day with thing one and thing two

Standard

IMG_0309

it’s early

and mom

has headed off

for her first day ever

teaching school

so

peaches

is over

 playing

with

babies j & b

and

already

all of the cans

are out

to make music

IMG_1632

and bubbles

are

all over the kitchen

from making

bubble soup

and

cupcakes with sprinkles

and

goldfish crackers

are for breakfast

and it’s not even

time for our

tie-dye

adventure

yet

hopefully

mom’s home a bit late

for

it’s a cat in the hat kind of day

in the house

BookCatInTheHatSS04

credit: ‘the cat in the hat’ – dr. seuss

when you love someone all your saved up wishes start coming out. elizabeth bowen

Standard

IMG_1545

 babies v, b, j and r

toss their coins

in the fountain

at the zoo

and the

giant

stone bears

standby

ever

at the watch

and keep

their secrets

as

they

send

their

 wishes

whispered

from

tiny lips

out

into the

great big

universe

where there is great love, there are always wishes.
willa cather